GORILLAS AND HANDS TO HEAVEN - OCTOBER 1988 PART 1

OCTOBER 1988

https://youtu.be/KC5InWPjtL8

Hands to Heaven by Breathe

I saw a great movie with Lori (friend from Blockbuster) called Gorillas in the Mist. She and I walked around Northpark Mall, saw the movie and ate at the Mall. We get along really well and laugh a lot!

(2022 comment - At Blockbuster, I didn’t really gel with many people… She and another girl, Valerie Cary were my best friends there)

So Keith and I have seen each other almost every night since Labor Day weekend. Our song is Hands to Heaven by Breathe. It seems like everytime I get in the car, it is playing. It’s a beautiful song about breaking up but knowing you should be together.

Don and I saw a sneak of The Accused with Jodie Foster. It was excellent. She will probably be nominated for it. Really hard to watch though. (She won her first Oscar for this.)

Another sneak we saw was Punchline with Tom Hanks, Sally Field. It was so-so. Sally was married to a kinda fat, inappropriate man and she was trying to be a comedian AND raise a family. This husband was not supportive AND he was rather unattractive. Bad casting, IMO. (2022 comment - Later realized this was John Goodman whom I absolutely adore as a character actor. But still, married to Sally? Uh-no - but… I remember him.)

Keith and I still have issues we need to work out. One night after eating at Judge Roy Beans, we went and sat by the creek to talk. He told me he didn’t care what I did - even things like going to stage shows, etc. as long as I didn’t expect or make him go.

Also a possible issue is - I like the occasional glass of wine and he doesn’t want to have anything to do with it. We were at my apartment pool and somehow the subject came up. He seemed almost angry about it.

(2022 - He really seemed judgmental about it. As far as drinking, he did NOT have a "to each his own" attitude, but more I don't do it - so you shouldn't.

I remember going to work the next day and discussing it with others.. Does it really matter that we like to do different things? I am so much more social and enjoy getting out and doing things. He’s a homebody. BUT church is priority to both of us and we believe politically and religiously equally. I like that though he’s conservative in some areas, he is not judgmental to others and has empathy to those who are gay, different, etc.. - I said all this to co-worker/friends. Lori said - “But you like to dance, go out? Party a bit? He does not.” I retorted “What’s more important? Dancing, goin out, etc. or being with someone who’s a respectable, good man who puts God/church first, LOVE his family, good DNA (I’ve always said that) - it’s time to grow up and realize what’s truly important.”)

But.. I think we’re at a point of making it or breaking it. It’s beginning to look and feel very serious. We are very attracted to each other and mesh well in that department. One time we laughed and held each other chuckling, because we admitted we both loved naps. (2022 comment - this actually happened quite early in our relationship coz he told me, after church and lunch, that he had to go home and take a nap. I said “OH so do I!” So.. we tried it at his house. We slept soundly in each other’s arms.

October 19, 1988

Four and a half months into our relationship, I left Blockbuster and met Keith at his house for lunch. Somehow we got to talking about all our differences. He said “we are at the point where we should KNOW what/where our relationship is going.” I wasn’t gonna speak up too much, I just let him go on. Somehow, before I knew it, we ? had agreed to break up. He said “If it wasn’t leading to marriage (and before we regretted doing something.. I wasn't regretting anything), we just should end it.”

I got in my car scratching my head, bewilderedly. My head was pounding. I ended up at my apartment and called in sick for the afternoon. I know I would’ve started crying and not stop. I really don’t know what just happened??

Keith and I are broken up?? What the heck!?